Why is it that everyone judges?
Shes to fat she too thin! Can she help gynetics? And not everyone can afford a gym!
She is ugly or she so pretty it sicking! No one can help what looks the got!
Their teeth are nasty! Not everyone can afford braces or invisaline!
Look at her clothes does she even care about her looks? No honey not everyone can afford american eagle or hollister!
Their shoes got holes in them! Not everyone can afford jordans nikes sperrys pumas!
Her hairs greasy! Did you ever stop and think maybe they dont have running water?
Shes a whore! Are you calling a whore because she hangs out with guys or that shes actually spreading her legs?
Oh she has a kid! Shes def not taking care of it her parents prolly are! Not all teen moms are like that!
Idk why hes with her? Did you ever think there is more about a person than jus looks!
Look at that homeless person trying to get change from everybody! Did you ever think how hard this economy is now?
Their deformed! Do you think the chose that?
Their too tall or short! I dont think they chose that either!
These are just some things people get judged about! Personally i hate when i hear people say these things. YOU....dont know what their life is or what goes on at home. So why judge someone take time and get to know them! I never understood this i was friends with everyone in school from losers to preps and anything in between! Before highschool i wasnt even noticed i was one of those losers fat horrible clothes. But you know what i couldnt help it! I had a single mother that had four kids to raise. One that got paid 3 dollars a hour plus tips to pay electric water laundry food! All that is hard for someone to do by theirselfs. I didnt always have everything i wanted even though my mom tried! My mother actually would clean our clothes with the last bit of money she had and not do hers and jus spray it with air freshner! My brother slept under the dining room table because he would rather live with our poor mother with no room no money then go to his dads! Ive been called a whore because i have a kid ive been called a whore because i rather hang out with guys! Ive seen people look down at homeless people in disgust! Ive been fat,ugly,thrift store clothes,my hair greasy! But you know what i wouldnt have it any other way you know why?? Because im real! I dont judge people for what they have or dont have! I love that i grew up with not alot of money because this is what made me real and look at life diffrently! If i want a car I got to work for it my self it wont jus get handed to me like alot of other people!
Just remember you dont know what people go threw! And do you think god approves of you judging all his children he made them that way ! Ask him why he made them soo ugly or so fat! Or too tall or small! Just think one minute about people before you open your mouth! They might not show it hurts them but it does! I was always made fun of in school and it still sticks with me i still have problems because of it!
Thursday, April 26, 2012
Wednesday, April 25, 2012
What if's ??
This was a inspiration from my friend myranda! Because i think all teen moms wonder these exact same things!
After you had you son/daughter was any of these questions running threw your head?
- What if i wouldnt have got pregnant?
- Where would I be in life right now?
- What job, house,or car could I have without a child?
- What friends would i still have?
-What would i do on the weekends besides changing diapers feeding bathing and changing?
- Would i have married this man or still been with him if it wasnt for our child?
- When i had money what would i spend it on besides my child?
In life theres alot of what if! But what would life be without them? You always wonder where youd be or what youd be doing. You got to realize god is the one that makes your path you may think your the one that chose where your at. But in all reality it was not you but god! If god didnt think you could handle what he gave you he wouldnt have put anymore on your plate than you can handle!
Im not saying my life is horriable by any means! My son means the world to me and i wouldnt want to have any of those what ifs i rather have him! Yea, i missed out on senior year, graduation, prom, all those parties, all those friends. But im still getting all that back! I got my diploma another way im almost finished with college! Im going to prom this sat. thanks to one of my only true friends left. And I get weekends without my son because he goes to his daddy's! Im not complaining at all because my life is perfect with him and would be lonely without! Yes teen pregnancy is not always a good thing but it my case it changed me for the better!
After you had you son/daughter was any of these questions running threw your head?
- What if i wouldnt have got pregnant?
- Where would I be in life right now?
- What job, house,or car could I have without a child?
- What friends would i still have?
-What would i do on the weekends besides changing diapers feeding bathing and changing?
- Would i have married this man or still been with him if it wasnt for our child?
- When i had money what would i spend it on besides my child?
In life theres alot of what if! But what would life be without them? You always wonder where youd be or what youd be doing. You got to realize god is the one that makes your path you may think your the one that chose where your at. But in all reality it was not you but god! If god didnt think you could handle what he gave you he wouldnt have put anymore on your plate than you can handle!
Im not saying my life is horriable by any means! My son means the world to me and i wouldnt want to have any of those what ifs i rather have him! Yea, i missed out on senior year, graduation, prom, all those parties, all those friends. But im still getting all that back! I got my diploma another way im almost finished with college! Im going to prom this sat. thanks to one of my only true friends left. And I get weekends without my son because he goes to his daddy's! Im not complaining at all because my life is perfect with him and would be lonely without! Yes teen pregnancy is not always a good thing but it my case it changed me for the better!
Abuse
Im going to start out by saying abuse in not right by anymeans! If you know anyone that gets abused by their spouse or parents contact someone!
I grew up with abuse all my life it seems like! My mother was abused by every man she got with until now my stepdad brandon is a amazong person. If my mom wasnt getting beat my brothers and sisters were. Thats why when i grew up i always said ill never be with a man that hits me. Well, i lied i was with noahs dad 2 years and almost the whole 2 years was abused! I never said anything to anyone because i thought it was ok. I mean i seen my mom get hit all the time so it just seems like its normal. I was the ages of 16-18 when it all happened. Can you imagine being jus a teenager and getting hit! It messes you up emotionally. Finally after two years of the abuse which wasnt just hitting me but emotionally and menatally abusing too! I woke up and realized i dont need this or deserve this in mine or my sons life! I dont want him to grow up and think its alright like i did because its wrong. And to anyone reading this that has been abused rather it be hitting emotional mental or even sexual! You are to good to put up with that! Be smart and move on! You think they love you but thats not love youll find someone like i did that loves you for you and would never hit you!
I grew up with abuse all my life it seems like! My mother was abused by every man she got with until now my stepdad brandon is a amazong person. If my mom wasnt getting beat my brothers and sisters were. Thats why when i grew up i always said ill never be with a man that hits me. Well, i lied i was with noahs dad 2 years and almost the whole 2 years was abused! I never said anything to anyone because i thought it was ok. I mean i seen my mom get hit all the time so it just seems like its normal. I was the ages of 16-18 when it all happened. Can you imagine being jus a teenager and getting hit! It messes you up emotionally. Finally after two years of the abuse which wasnt just hitting me but emotionally and menatally abusing too! I woke up and realized i dont need this or deserve this in mine or my sons life! I dont want him to grow up and think its alright like i did because its wrong. And to anyone reading this that has been abused rather it be hitting emotional mental or even sexual! You are to good to put up with that! Be smart and move on! You think they love you but thats not love youll find someone like i did that loves you for you and would never hit you!
Tuesday, April 24, 2012
A lil about me
To start off my name is Candice. I'm 18, I have a son named Noah. He was born 8/24/2010.
When i was just 16 years old, I got into a serious realationship. Thats usually when teen girls are talking about crushes. Getting their license, shopping, having sleepovers. Not me i was settling down with a 25 year old man that I thought was perfect. (i'll tell that story later) It wasnt but 6 months after meeting him that i found out i was having his child. I was shocked & scared! And wondering how im going to complete my goals in life. Then i realized all that was over for now! On may 26th 2010 i found out that i was having a lil boy. Thats when reality set in that what everyone says is my life is now over. Thats also the day i was born, my niece was also born this day, and the day that the man i loved so much left me! We eventually worked things out got back together! Did the whole back and forth thing until are son was born. The day was 8/24/2010 the day when my whole life changed. I was in labor 16 hours, pushed for 2. Then i finally got to meet him! The lil man that was kicking and punching me all along. He was so beautiful i still couldnt believe he was mine it was so unreal. I didnt want to leave the hospital because i knew once we left he was really mine to keep. So, we finally went home after a couple days and it was like a perfect lil family. My son was perfect never really cried, slept threw the night, loved baths! Jus perfect! Then i think i got postpardum depression? Me and his father were always fighting i was always upset! I didnt want to do anything with noah for awhile. Then i told myself "Candice! You laid down and did the grown up now you got to do grown up things!!" Its not your sons fault he didnt asked to be brought in this world! Me and his father finally called it quits after all the cheating, lying, & abusing! Noah and I are pretty much on our own besides the fact we live with my mother! Hes wild and full of energy! I wouldnt trade one day with him. Hes def my world,and everything wrapped in it! Its crazy to think hell be 2 in jus a couple months. Seems like just yesterday i was in the hospital not believing my own reality! Now, it is my whole life:)
When i was just 16 years old, I got into a serious realationship. Thats usually when teen girls are talking about crushes. Getting their license, shopping, having sleepovers. Not me i was settling down with a 25 year old man that I thought was perfect. (i'll tell that story later) It wasnt but 6 months after meeting him that i found out i was having his child. I was shocked & scared! And wondering how im going to complete my goals in life. Then i realized all that was over for now! On may 26th 2010 i found out that i was having a lil boy. Thats when reality set in that what everyone says is my life is now over. Thats also the day i was born, my niece was also born this day, and the day that the man i loved so much left me! We eventually worked things out got back together! Did the whole back and forth thing until are son was born. The day was 8/24/2010 the day when my whole life changed. I was in labor 16 hours, pushed for 2. Then i finally got to meet him! The lil man that was kicking and punching me all along. He was so beautiful i still couldnt believe he was mine it was so unreal. I didnt want to leave the hospital because i knew once we left he was really mine to keep. So, we finally went home after a couple days and it was like a perfect lil family. My son was perfect never really cried, slept threw the night, loved baths! Jus perfect! Then i think i got postpardum depression? Me and his father were always fighting i was always upset! I didnt want to do anything with noah for awhile. Then i told myself "Candice! You laid down and did the grown up now you got to do grown up things!!" Its not your sons fault he didnt asked to be brought in this world! Me and his father finally called it quits after all the cheating, lying, & abusing! Noah and I are pretty much on our own besides the fact we live with my mother! Hes wild and full of energy! I wouldnt trade one day with him. Hes def my world,and everything wrapped in it! Its crazy to think hell be 2 in jus a couple months. Seems like just yesterday i was in the hospital not believing my own reality! Now, it is my whole life:)
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